Another sad day for many. Rolf was someone I loved and adored as I grew up. As a child and teen I would have put him in the same category as my father – a man to be loved, trusted and looked up to. I would have loved to meet him and would have been star struck if that occurred.
But it’s likely that something else might have happened and I could have become one of his victims too. Right up to the ruling he was denying he’d done anything wrong and wouldn’t accept it in court. Singing and behaving as if he was in a show was truly ridiculous but indicative of someone who wasn’t accepting what was taking place. My father also denied he’d done anything wrong right till his death.
Sadly I think these people really, truly believe that what they’d done was ok (for them) and although the world didn’t understand it, there was nothing wrong in what they were doing. So sad. So sick.
While I feel badly for the victims in this case, I also really feel for his family. At least when we were going through the challenges in our family about what my father had done to our daughters, it was not in the eyes of the world and public at large, and our family and my mum and sisters have been able to keep their anonymity. I won’t ever share who they are, unless they decide to step forward publicly to say what had happened to them. But I hope these writings help others who are going through this hell, whether right now, or having the horror of finding out it took place years ago, as we had done. We were denied the right to protect our children and have my father charged and have his day in court… all because our girls were over 16 (older actually) when they finally told us.
My dad is dead, I never went to say goodbye and didn’t speak to him for probably the last 6 years of his life. Our girls have never seen him brought to justice for what he did to them, and for the childhood he robbed from them. But at least they know he can’t hurt anyone else. I worry for those who dad had touched but hadn’t come forward when the opportunity was still there. The police did contact many people whom we thought might have been involved, but they denied anything happened or didn’t know what the police were talking about. While the police didn’t come right out about why they were visiting these people it was clear that it had something to do with my parents. Mum has shifted now so no-one from their old area will be able to locate her, if they finally acknowledge what he did. I hope and pray they’ll be able to get the help they need when that time comes.
I believe that Rolf Harris will never get out of jail, or perhaps, might not even make it there. He’s aged, he’ll now be feeling in despair, disillusioned, upset that the world has turned against him and feeling that he’s let his family down badly. I doubt he’ll be in this world much longer. The retirement years he would have been wanting to enjoy will be no more. I feel sorry for his wife. Did she have any inkling?
Did my mum? I have no idea. But then I look back now and see the hints from all those years ago. Things my school friends said to me about my dad being a ‘dirty old man’. I had no idea what they meant. I was very innocent, naive and had little to no knowledge of what sex was, let alone anything else. All I know is that dad never touched me like that while I was growing up. My mind and my heart are seriously conflicted. I loved the man my father was when I was growing up, I hate what he turned into.
If you, or someone you know, has been affected by this type of crime and disease, please get help. Don’t let it simmer away in the background. You need help, or the person you know, and the person who did it needs to be locked away, or dealt with so that they never do that to any other child.