Counsellor speaks of ‘loving caring’ person
There’s a news report this morning on the radio - it’s not yet showing up in the papers online. It tells of a counsellor who stood up and spoke of a convicted paedophile as a ‘loving caring man’ in his defense.
The mothers of the victims are insensed and so am I. Â I doubt that counselor has any kids of her/his own, and if they do, their children have not been touched by this insidious behaviour.
I’m a mother who has some daughters who have been defiled by my own father. I had no idea he was like that - he wasn’t when I was a child - at least not to me or my sisters but I have reason to believe he may have been to at least one of my school friends - only I didn’t know it at the time.
These events took place when our children were left in his (and my mother’s) care whilst we were away some time ago. He has been reported to the police and is being monitored - he lives in another state.
I would say my father is also a loving caring man but that doesn’t mean we agree with what he’s done and that ‘loving and caring’ has been screwed up. I would never say that in his defense - if he ends up in jail he deserves it. I don’t want to see my father again - it hurts too much to know that he abused the trust my husband and I had in him and my mum and it has definitely broken our family relationships as a result.
Our girls are growing up and want to put this thing behind them - for that reason I have been careful not to identify who I am or my children. My daughters’ identities should be protected but I felt I should speak out as this is an important issue and not one to be shoved under a carpet somewhere.
September 21st, 2007 at 1:19 am
Perpetrators are very clever people (they have to be to hide their despicable behaviour). It sounds as though the convicted perpetrator in the news story has managed to convince his counsellor that he is a “loving caring man”.
It is so important for everyone to understand the tactics of those who want to play sex games with our kids.
Thank you to you and your family for speaking out while protecting your identities.
I would like to see you post more often and to help the rest o0f us in our endeavors to create a culture of zero tolerance toward sexual violence.
I have linked to you and visit you frequently. I have also stumbled your site in a hope that more blog readers will learn of the dynamics and devastation of child sexual abuse.
September 21st, 2007 at 1:37 pm
Thank you. I noticed the increased stats and that this page had been stumbled. I do appreciate that. It still hurts to write about this episode of our lives as it’s now only a year since we first learnt about it. Writing does help though and periodically I’ll hear something on the radio or someone will say something that starts a new train of thought.